i think we all have that one piece of media we like that’s basically “i love this thing, but i dont think everyone should watch this thing and would not categorically recommend it to other people i know, this thing has a lot of problems and i am the first person you should ask if you want to know a long list of criticisms, but i REALLY ENJOY THIS THING” its like holding up a can of trash to everyone else and saying ”you are a reasonable person and you would not enjoy touching this garbage and i value that about you” and then pouring it out on the ground and rolling around in it yourself
I just made a gamzee sim and the very first thing he did was rummage through his own garbage can why am I not surprised
I really hope it continues being a thing, accepting how other people come into their identities and the like and how the world shapes their reactions and just generally encouraging people to look at themselves and supporting them through that.
Actually, more than that, I really hope the community doesn’t stop reaching out because people don’t realise what good that does for everyone.
Like. I think I’ve known I was ace since day one, I just knew. Only I didn’t have a name for it to know it was an Official Thing and that sucked because I actually just thought I was day one broken. I kinda hoped I’d “turn straight” and I was “DEFINITIVELY NOT GAY HAHAH NOPE I CAN’T BE HAAHAA I DON’T LIKE ANYONE, WILL NEVER EVER WANT TO BE GAY DEFINITELY NOT GOING TO BE THAT THING THAT IS SCARY AND MAKES PEOPLE MAD” (lmao). I worried and fretted for years because I didn’t know it was a thing. And when I found out? Worry over. Done. And BECAUSE OF THAT I was able to date a rad lady without worrying about What I’m Not Feeling and rejecting them before anything began. We aren’t together anymore but I am grateful for what we had and comfortable in knowing I could date someone again if I wanted to— or not! Not only that, but when I came out to my mom (accidentally tbh) I was prepared for the lashback enough I didn’t bow when I didn’t need to because I had the facts.
With my gender I had no idea. At all. I’ve been bothered for years with clothing and presentation. I had dreams and I was genderless in every single one. I’d stress out and looking back I realised there were things probably related to this. But I had no knowledge of what was out there. The most I had were the words of a family member throwing around the word “he-she” and I didn’t even know it was a slur at the time. Unlike with my sexuality, it took me a long time to accept and fully come at as gender queer and I still haven’t actually come out to my family and maybe never will. But I am happier now because I know what the deal is, and I wouldn’t have had that otherwise.
And this is why I get annoyed when people want to withhold information or means of reaching out because they can’t be assed to share, or it bothers them, or It’s not their responsibility— it isn’t, no, but is it really so hard to take two minutes out of one’s day to point in a direction? It’s not even wanting to have your own space and privacy that’s the issue— if one person doesn’t want to talk about it, they don’t want to talk about it and that’s fine— but when the whole community is encouraged to bar their doors that gets me uneasy.
Also when people take a whole steaming shit on tumblr. NGL, this place can be a cesspool (like much of the internet) and yeah there are a lot of slacktivists on here (I would not dare thinking myself an activist, as a note) but that doesn’t automatically make everything on here bad. This place, while not the best for everything like fact-checking, is good for a general voice from the community of just getting things out there. It’s a jumping platform where people can go “oh! That’s a thing?” and from there go and investigate. I did not realise how much internalized racism, sexism, classicism, and so on, that I had until I fell ass backwards into this place. And yeah, for a while it made me feel like scum and it sucked but I learned from it all and I couldn’t be more grateful.
And it’s all because of a willingness to share and be open.
It’s always a gamble with these things because you have to be careful of course of people who will abuse this and all what not, but overall, I feel that the sharing and spreading of experiences and information is one that should be welcomed and encouraged.
And that’s my disjointed two cents.
dear cis het people:
please do not come to Pride unless you are specifically invited by a queer person
please don’t invade our safe spaces, it’s getting to the point where there’s more cishets than queer folks and it’s starting to feel unsafe
same goes for bars
Dear cis het people:
I have specifically invited you to Pride. Thank you.i like this strategy. Yes, cishet people, please come to our celebration, and by all means bring your big straight mundane families. a few of your kids might be encouraged to come out to you someday, when they remember how you waved the rainbow flag and laughed and clapped for people you had no personal obligation to support. 100% of you are WELCOME, LOVED AND APPRECIATED, by writ of the Queen Himself.